Do you ever start emailing someone and they go nuts on you? Expect things like you have known them forever and will disclose all kinds of info right away????
Is it just me that wants to take their time and get to know someones heart first?????
Quoting: Originally posted by Dirkdig Do you ever start emailing someone and they go nuts on you? Expect things like you have known them forever and will disclose all kinds of info right away????
Is it just me that wants to take their time and get to know someones heart first?????
Signed,,,gunshy
well to be honest I see both sides of this fence, One is yes I want to know about the person Iam talking to but please don't tell me your sexual wants right off the bat, that tends to mak more...
Quoting: Originally posted by Dirkdig Do you ever start emailing someone and they go nuts on you? Expect things like you have known them forever and will disclose all kinds of info right away????
Is it just me that wants to take their time and get to know someones heart first?????
Signed,,,gunshy
well to be honest I see both sides of this fence, One is yes I want to know about the person Iam talking to but please don't tell me your sexual wants right off the bat, that tends to make one thing that is all you want. but then again on the other hand I want people to be honest with me therefore telling you that on the first date you want me to take a shower with you tells me that I don't want to go out with you. And No I don't want to compare sexual toys with you on the first date nor do I do sloppy seconds, I think there are other websites for that.
I know this sounds harsh which is not like my nature but I do get tired of playing games. less...
Depends on the info they are asking for. I have to say that I am very demanding upfront. I have been through too much bullsh*t on here to play around for weeks in emails trying to get to know someone only to have their WIFE email me accusing me of playing around with her husband. Back when I was looking, I would email a few times, then ask for a number if it was not given yet. Information is just a way to ascertain whether or not someone you are talking to is serious or just playing games.
Depends on the info they are asking for. I have to say that I am very demanding upfront. I have been through too much bullsh*t on here to play around for weeks in emails trying to get to know someone only to have their WIFE email me accusing me of playing around with her husband. Back when I was looking, I would email a few times, then ask for a number if it was not given yet. Information is just a way to ascertain whether or not someone you are talking to is serious or just playing games.
As for the commitment after two emails, yeah, those are crazy people. I've met a few men like that myself. less...
For those of us that have been alone for a while or at that age where time feels like it is passing too fast...we do tend to walk up to the counter, slap our mug down and expect it to be filled - pronto ! I personally thought that being on a dating site was for people that had poor luck elsewhere and were at the end of their options, therefore they would be serious about spending siginfigant, quality time with someone and work towards that desired end result of bein more...
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For those of us that have been alone for a while or at that age where time feels like it is passing too fast...we do tend to walk up to the counter, slap our mug down and expect it to be filled - pronto ! I personally thought that being on a dating site was for people that had poor luck elsewhere and were at the end of their options, therefore they would be serious about spending siginfigant, quality time with someone and work towards that desired end result of being a couple, or fall in love, or get married or whatever. That is all what I thought it would be like.
Ok, I think I'm the first one to admit that I have a problem in this area. LOL :) I don't think I expect too much but I have a really bad habit of being too honest I think (give TMI too soon). It's just who I am. I'm very open and honst and I just automatically expect others to be the same. I lead with my heart and finding the right balance is difficult for me....but I am growing and evolving!
There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved.
there is a time and a place for everything. although honesty between two people is necessary for a healthy relationship... there are some things that just don't need to be shared. we all have a past... and that's where some things belong. get to know the new person in your life, and share the things that you are comforable with at the appropriate times.
No!!! Dirk, it's not just you, I have experienced that type of situation myself. I think that now a days people are so desperate to find LOVE that they are willing to tell all right away and not take things slow. As for me, I'm an open book, but all my past comes with time. When people communicate slowly day by day it gives you time to understand, learn and actually care about the other person's feelings and what they have gone through. No one wants to be friends before lovers anymore, everyon more...
No!!! Dirk, it's not just you, I have experienced that type of situation myself. I think that now a days people are so desperate to find LOVE that they are willing to tell all right away and not take things slow. As for me, I'm an open book, but all my past comes with time. When people communicate slowly day by day it gives you time to understand, learn and actually care about the other person's feelings and what they have gone through. No one wants to be friends before lovers anymore, everyone seems to want that sexual satisfaction without any spiritual or mental connection. If I just wanted to get POPPED I'd be a hooker and making a hell of a lot more than I do now HA! HA! HA!. Anyway,don't feel like your the only one cause some folks still like it nice & slow...............I do. less...
