I'm new and I was hoping to meet some nice people- to talk to, hang out with, maybe even date- but I'm not really good with the whole "talking to people you can't see"-thing. Any suggestions?
I'm just wanting to know if this is somehow an initiation to the site. This is what I've experienced since I've joined the site, excluding the good convos and the names of the colorful male parties.
The first time I went to chat after I became a member, a guy wanted to cyber, basic jerk, but I am mature enough to deal with them. I was actually expecting some of them, so moving on. It was the next time I go to chat that things got weird. Apparently I catch the eye of A British man almost twice my age, who wanted to chat, okay, I'm not against making friends. We chat for a while, he says some things, I think he's joking. I have mentioned in previous blogs being naive, but this night I was also oblivious. It wasn't until he asked to do a fashion show for me,that I realized he wasn't kidding. He was a British Transvestite. And I must say, if nothing else, he had great legs and great taste in shoes. It was however when he wanted to start modeling his under garment collection for me that it turned from oddly comical to horrific. Strike one. Next guy, an Australian guy, actually my age. (yay!) We start talking and are getting along great, then he says how I mentioned I like honesty. I do, I value it above almost all else. But I learned there is a place for too much honesty too soon. He casually mentions how he's into bondage, going into detail and including a website. Okay, strike two... And the third strike wasn't really weird, just cruel. It was a guy my own age again, and this time actually near me. I e-mail him, and he responds. And then we become friends on another site, too. We start chatting. I really like this guy. He is good looking, sweet, kind, respectful. I ask him what the catch is, because there always seems to be one with guys I like. He says no catch. He gives me his phone number, I call. We talk and it's like connection! He seems actually flustered to have me on the phone, he said he wasn't sure if I was real. Anyway, he asked to meet, sure he lives an hour away. Then I ask where, he'll call me back... Strike three apparently started to feel guilty at this point and called his mother for advice (so he said) and she convinced him he had to tell me that the ex-girlfriend he had brought up in passing wasn't exactly an ex. In fact the were very much together and his mom thinks that she's the one for him. Did I mention she's 17 and he's 24? Is that even legal? Anyways, I'm annoyed at most men, and some women come to think of it, and I thought I'd share. Anybody else have an interesting encounter they'd like to share?
I've come across very interesting people since I joined this site, (which makes me wonder if it's my profile or sheer luck), and I'm starting to question if anyone in my age group actually wants a real relationship or friendship, or if it's just random people looking for random hook-ups. I've met some friends who are having luck, (you know who you are even if you don't think I know who you are), and I see them flirting on the blogs, (you people aren't as sly as you think you are). Is it just because I'm younger and supposed to be meeting people through real life experiences right now? Well, most of the guys I know see me as one of the guys, or worse as a sister figure, and that's not what I'm looking for. I know I'm just rambling, but I can only take so many creeps (both on-line and in person) before I start to wonder if I'm a magnet for them somehow, if it's me. Maybe it's because I'm young (obviously), inexperienced (or only bad experiences), and naive (I know I am), but does that mean that every sicko, creep and pervert gets to flock my way? Okay, I know I said in another blog I wasn't jaded, maybe there's a touch of that there :). I'm just tired of getting my hopes up to get them crushed again. That is all. -Erin
A couple goes on vacation to a fishing resort in northern Minnesota. The husband likes to fish at the crack of dawn, the wife likes to read. One morning the husband returns after several hours of fishing and decides to take a nap. Although not familiar with the lake, the wife decides to take the boat out. She motors out a short distance, anchors, and continues to read her book. Along comes a game warden in his boat. He pulls up alongside the woman and says, "Good morning Ma'am. What are you doing?" "Reading a book," She replies, (Thinking, "Isn't that obvious?") "You're in a restricted fishing area," he informs her. "I'm sorry officer, but I'm not fishing, I'm reading." "Yes, but you have all the equipment. For all I know you could start at any moment. I'll have to take you in and write you up." "If you do that, I'll have to charge you with sexual assault," says the woman. "But I haven't even touched you," says the game warden. "That's true, but you have all the equipment. For all I know you could start at any moment." "Have a nice day ma'am", and he left.
Computers are Like Men... In order to get their attention, you have to turn them on. They are supposed to help you solve problems, but half the time they are the problem. They have a lot of data but are still clueless. As soon as you commit to one, you realize that, if you had waited a little longer you could have had a better model. They hear what you say, but not what you mean.
Computers are Like Women... No one but the Creator understands their internal logic. The native language they use to communicate with other computers is incomprehensible to everyone else. Even your smallest mistakes are stored in long-term memory for later retrieval. As soon as you make a commitment to one, you find yourself spending half your paycheck on accessories for it. You do the same thing for years, and suddenly it's wrong
Don't Call Home for Money A fifteen year-old boy came home with a Porsche and his parents began to yell and scream, "Where did you get that car???!!!" He calmly told them, "I bought it today." "With what money?" demanded his parents. We know what a Porsche costs." "Well," said the boy, "this one cost me fifteen dollars." So the parents began to yell even louder. "Who would sell a car like that for fifteen dollars?" they said. "It was the lady up the street," said the boy. I don't know her name-they just moved in. She saw me ride past on my bike and asked me if I wanted to buy a Porsche for fifteen dollars." "Oh my Goodness," moaned the mother, "she must be a child abuser. Who knows what she will do next? John, you go right up there and see what's going on." So the boy's father walked up the street to the house where the lady lived and found her out in the yard calmly planting petunias. He introduced himself as the father of the boy to whom she had sold a Porsche for fifteen dollars and demanded to know why she did it. "Well," she said, "this morning I got a phone call from my husband. I thought he was on a business trip, but learned from a friend he has run off to Hawaii with his secretary and really doesn't intend to come back. He claimed he was stranded and asked me to sell his new Porsche and send him the money. So I did."
The Bathtub Sanity Test During a visit to the mental asylum, a visitor asked the Director what the criterion was which defined whether or not a patient should be institutionalized. "Well," said the Director, "we fill up a bathtub, then we offer a teaspoon, a teacup and a bucket to the patient and ask him or her to empty the bathtub." "Oh, I understand," said the visitor. "A normal person would use the bucket because it's bigger than the spoon or the teacup!" "No." said the Director, "A normal person would pull the plug. Do you want a bed near the window?"
Can you ever really fall out of love? If you love someone, and you break up, is it something you get over or is it just something you learn to live with over time? Does falling out of love, mean it was never truely love to begin with, only infatuation? I've only ever had one boyfriend, I'd known him for about 6 months, then we started dating. After two weeks he said he loved me. I told him not to say that because it was too soon and he couldn't possibly mean it. But about a month later I said it back, knowing, or at least thinking, that it was truely love. Then after about four months of spending almost every waking (and most sleeping) moments together, things just tapered off. He began to forget me when I'd come over and he was on the phone or internet and I started to become numb to it. Do you think it was just infatuation, when I still think of that feeling, and get chills? I don't see him anymore, but I remember the feeling and wonder.
The 'Be' Attitudes Be understanding to your enemies. Be loyal to your friends. Be strong enough to face the world each day. Be weak enough to know you cannot do everything alone. Be generous to those who need your help. Be frugal with that you need yourself. Be wise enough to know that you do not know everything. Be foolish enough to believe in miracles. Be willing to share your joys. Be willing to share the sorrows of others. Be a leader when you see a path others have missed. Be a follower when you are shrouded by the mists of uncertainty. Be first to congratulate an opponent who succeeds. Be last to criticize a colleague who fails. Be sure where your next step will fall, so that you will not tumble. Be sure of your final destination, in case you are going the wrong way. Be loving to those who love you. Be loving to those who do not love you; they may change. Above all, be yourself.
ABCs of Love and Friendship (A)ccepts you as you are (B)elieves in "you" (C)alls you just to say "HI" (D)oesn't give up on you (E)nvisions the whole of you (even the unfinished parts) (F)orgives your mistakes (G)ives unconditionally (H)elps you (I)nvites you over (J)ust "be" with you (K)eeps you close at heart (L)oves you for who you are (M)akes a difference in your life (N)ever Judges (O)ffer support (P)icks you up (Q)uiets your fears (R)aises your spirits (S)ays nice things about you (T)ells you the truth when you need to hear it (U)nderstands you (V)alues you (W)alks beside you (X)-plains thing you don't understand (Y)ells when you won't listen and (Z)aps you back to reality
(I was looking at old e-mails and found this, thought I'd share.)
This is the first time I've done something like this, I'm kind of shy until I know someone, but I'm looking for new ways to meet people. Hopefully people who don't judge me on how I look. Any suggestions on how to get started with non-face-to-face contact? Maybe somebody just want to talk?
